thespianisme

Well crap. Here we are trying to be good grandparents, thinking we can rescue the 11-yr old from her drug addled mother, and the child says no, she doesn't want to come live with us. Has she become so independent? Has she become the parent to her mother, who is (and always will be) unemployed? Her stap-father isn't much better. Supposedly & reportedly self employed (ha) but they are existing off their meager tax return money and $800 a month in food stamps. As parents & grandparents who are comfortable, why can't we just let that go? Do we just let it ride til she gets busted or ends up in the hospital from the abuse? What words do you give someone who continues to put drugs in their system, causing them to die a slow death? She hears nothing we say as logic- spends alot of effort and energy telling us to mind our own business, yet calling every week with some new malady and asking for help. I think I am on the verge of selling the house, leaving it all behind and moving too far away to drive in one day. Then I realize we can't leave my 66 year old mother alone to deal with this crap. She's not handling any of it very well either. I am open to suggestions... but I am not open to spending another 5-grand for the 'rehab' trip.